I came across this awesome series of link ups the other day on Becky’s blog, From Mrs. to Mama and decided to jump on the bandwagon. A good blogging buddy of mine, Heather with Cookies for Breakfast, wrote about her three goals here and I loved them! This week’s topic is our goals for motherhood. There could be so many things to say here, but I decided to narrow it down to three goals. This will help to keep me focused and concise.
Motherhood is a difficult journey. When you become a mama, you go from worrying about one person to two, and from having goals and aspirations for one person to two…and that’s a lot of pressure!! We’re not perfect (well I know that I am not anyways!) and that’s ok. What’s important is to recognize our faults and work to try and better those. There are things I strive for as a mother, and one the most important one for is for my children to grow up feeling loved, special and safe. With that in mind, here are my three goals.
ONE- Be Patient….Yes, this one can be difficult for me. It’s strange, because I used to have all the patience in the world when I was teaching, but maybe that’s because that job had a set beginning and end and being a mom doesn’t. I don’t get to leave. I don’t get to “clock out”. Even after they are suppose to be in bed, they seem to keep coming out and then normally at least one will get up in the night asking for something. Then the morning comes and it starts all over again. This doesn’t mean I don’t LOVE my job. I LOVE being a stay at home mama with all my heart and count my blessing every day that I have this chance…with that being said, that doesn’t mean that I don’t have bad days “at work”. A ways back I made a “confession” that I can be a “yeller“. I have been working on this and believe that I am getting better. The yelling goes hand in hand with having patience, or lack there of…when the peas are fighting, at each other’s throats and no one is listening, that’s when I’ll yell. As much as it pains me to admit this, but I have begun to noticed that my oldest daughter is turning into a yeller as well with her siblings. I HATE (and hate is a strong word) it. But who is to blame?? Me, of course. I want my children to grow up patient, so therefor, I need to set a better example. This is one I will keep working on.
TWO- To Listen….I always make it a point when my kids come home from school to ask them about their day and really LISTEN to them. I ask them questions and am attentive. I always want my kids to know their opinions are valid and am important to me. This will be especially important as they get older. Growing up, I was close with my Mom and I knew I could tell her anything and she would never judge me (it probably didn’t hurt that I was the perfect daughter 😉 I want my kids to know that when they have issues, they can always come to me and trust me. Will they tell me every detail about their life? Probably not, but as long as they know I am there, that’s what matters. I truly believe this open line of communication and trust is one of the keys of raising teens that stay on the right track. We always eat dinner as a family (well, sometimes daddy is at work, but the kids and I do) and take turns talking about our day and the things we did. No TV, no distractions. They love it. As they get older and schedules get busier, we may not be able to sit together as a family very single night, but I will make it a priority to as often as we can.
THREE- To Enjoy Each other and Live in the Moment….This summer I started off making a Summer Bucket list (which I had never done) for two reasons, 1) to have a plan and 2) to enjoy our time together. So many days I say to myself, at one point or another, “I can’t wait for bedtime!!!” and even though I’m sure I will have lots of days like that, I want to make sure my kids are enjoying their days and loving life. I didn’t want all of our days to be spend wondering what we would do next. My mom worked A LOT when we were little and being a single mom, most of my child wasn’t the most ideal. I don’t have very many memories of days that stand out as “awesome”. I want my kids to grow up having lots of those memories. That doesn’t mean that we have to spend oodles of money and vacation at the most fancy places, some days can be just home with each other, playing games, building a fort, playing in the yard, or painting. I also want my kids to know that Mom DOES have things she needs to do and I want them to be able t0 entertain themselves, but I also want them to go to sleep at night and think, “today was a good day.” You and I both know, that as we get older, there are many days we go to sleep and think “today sucked” for one reason or another. I cannot prevent those days from happening, but I know the days we have together when they are little are so few and I want to make them count. It’s all about finding balance.
There were so many other things I could say, so many wishes and dreams for how they will be when they grow up, but these three are the ones I want to work on now. By focusing on these, I hope to be an even better mommy that I already am! 😉
What are your motherhood goals?