Hello lovely readers! I’m Krista, blogger at The Quinntessential Mommy. While Michelle is busy moving her three peas across the country, I’m taking over her space today and I’m so excited.
Before we get started, let me tell you a little bit more about myself. I’m a mom, a blogger, a writer and an English professor at a community college so it’s safe to say that I love words. In a minute you’ll see why today’s post is near and dear to my heart.
Thank you notes are usually the most dreaded part of any celebration. I know they are in my house! We used to put off writing them until was almost too late to send them. In this highly digital world we live in, it would be so much easier to just send a thank you email or text. But, I still think it’s important to teach kids the importance of a proper written thank you note. Expressing thanks is an important part of being a polite and courteous human being, and I think it’s part of my job as a mom to teach my kids these social graces.
If you’re wondering about the basics of Thank You Note etiquette and how to get your kids involved in the process of writing thank you notes, read on!
First, set the scene with your child. Have an age appropriate conversation about gratitude and the importance of giving thanks. Explain to kids that it’s important to say thank you, not only for the gift, but also for the effort someone put into the gift and the occasion. With my four year old I’d say something like, “Your friend Sophia went to the store with her mommy and chose a gift they thought you’d like. Then she took the time to come to your birthday party to celebrate with you. We want to thank her for doing all that just for you!”
What kind of thank you note should you send?
- A handwritten and personal thank you note is always the best bet. Yes they take some time, but it’s worth it. Kids love getting mail so go ahead and send them.
- Email is less formal and is ok if the gift was opened in front of the gift giver and the gift giver has already been thanked in person.
- Try to avoid pre-printed thank you notes with a catchy little poem thanking everyone for coming and for their gift. They’re impersonal and can leave people wondering if you’re actually grateful for their presence or their gift. (I once received one of these pre-printed thank you notes in a goody bag as I was walking out of the party! Yikes!)
Your child can and should help with the thank you note process.
- The good news is you can start them young! Around 3 years old kids are ready to help write thank you notes.
- Younger kids can dictate the wording to you, color a picture on the card and write their name at the end.
- Older kids (ages 5 and up) can pick out thank you notes with you at the store or help you design a card online. Check out Etsy–they have tons of cute, affordable options.
- Tweens and Teens can send an email or use a graphic design program to make their own thank you notes.