School is in full swing and every day kids are getting off of the bus or into the car in the pick up line and are met with parents asking “how was your day?” and most kids replying “fine” or “good” or “fun”. BORING. Yes, boring. It’s so important to connect with your kids and get them talking more, but how do we do that? By asking the right questions.
I remember reading an article years ago about strengthening your marriage through asking the right questions and communicating more and I found it festinating. I know that the same rules apply to your kids and as they get older and more involved in their own lives, and more influenced by their friends, it’s even more important to stay connected and engaged with them so that they know 1) that you are generally interested in what they are doing, 2) that you care and 3) that what they are doing is important to you. While I don’t have teenagers yet, I do have a “tween” and I know that I want her to know that she can always come to me and talk without being judged or reprimanded for telling me something. These foundations of trust begin young by actively communicating with them and showing an interest in what they are doing and LISTENING. Really LISTENING. To get you started, here are 10 questions to ask your kids instead of “how was your day?”
1.Tell me a new fact you learned today?
2.Did you play with anyone new at recess?
3.Was there a time when you were super happy today? (or mad, scared, nervous, brave)
4.Did anything funny happen today?
5.What did you learn in math? (or reading, science, social studies)
6.Did you read any books on your own?
7.If you were the teacher tomorrow, what would you teach your friends?
8.What is your easiest classroom rule to follow? (and what is the hardest?)
9.What is the best special you have? Why?
10.Tell me something you learned about YOU today.
How do you connect with your kids at the end of the day? What question about you add to the list?
If you need more ideas of questions, head over to my friend Krista’s blog The Quintessential Mommy and find 20 more!